Here are a few realizations that helped me the most when I was learning regular expressions.
1. Regular expressions aren’t trivial. If you think they’re trivial, but you can’t get them to work, then you feel stupid. They’re not trivial, but they’re not that hard either. They just take some study.
2. Regular expressions are not command line wild cards. They contain some of the same symbols but they don’t mean the same thing. They’re just similar enough to cause confusion.
4. Character classes are a little sub-language within regular expressions. Character classes are their own little world. Once you realize that and don’t expect the usual rules for regular expressions outside character classes to apply, you can see that they’re not very complicated, just different. Failure to realize that they are different is a major source of bugs.
Once you’re ready to dive into regular expressions, read Jeffrey Friedl’s book (ISBN 0596528124). It’s by far the best book on the subject. Read the first few chapters carefully, but then flip the pages quickly when he goes off into NFA engines and all that.